If you need help with asking God for help or having the faith and trust in God to help you, please don't hesitate to email me or phone me, and together we can get you to that point, where you realize that your very best friend is God.
When I was little, I used to believe in the concept of one best friend, and then I started to become a woman. And then I found out that if you allow your heart to open up, God would show you the best in many friends.
One friend's best is needed when you're going through things with your children. Another friend's best is needed when you're going through things with your mom. Another when you want to shop, share, heal, hurt, joke, or just be. One friend will say let's pray together, another let's cry together, another let's fight together, another let's walk away together.
One friend will meet your spiritual need, another your shoe fetish, another your love for movies, another will be with you in your season of confusion, another will be your clarifier, another the wind beneath your wings.
But whatever their assignment in your life, on whatever the occasion, on whatever the day, or where ever you need them to meet you with their gym shoes on and hair pulled back or to hold you back from making a complete fool of yourself... those are your friends.
It may all be wrapped up in one woman, but for many it's wrapped up in several... one from 7th grade, several from high school, several from the college years, a couple from old jobs, several from church, on some days your mother, on others your sisters, and on some days it's the one that you needed just for that day or week that you needed someone with a fresh perspective, or the one who didn't know all your baggage, or the one who would just listen without judging... those are good best friends.
I thank my girlfriends, those who honor intimacy, those who hold trust, and those who hold me up when life is just too heavy! The special bond we share is unique. Thanks for the words we've shared. The prayers we've sent up. The laughs, the tears, the phone calls, the emails, the shopping, the movies, the lunches, the dinners, the talking, talking, talking and the listening, listening, listening
There are times when you can talk to no one about your pain or concerns. And you are your own "best friend." And then there are those times when we are our "own worst enemies." And when you get to the place where your "gut" tells you that you are taking the wrong road, walking down the wrong path, and you are on the road to destruction, then that is the time to take a deep breath, and pause, and THINK.
God tells us that He is "closer to us than our own heart beats." When you think about that alone, it seems impossible for something or someone to be closer to you than your own heartbeat, but He is. The trouble is, we are not "listening" to what He is saying to us. But I guarantee you, that God ALWAYS has your highest good in mind. He will never lead you down the wrong path where you could get hurt if you do what He says.
There is another kind of friend of course
Sometimes what God tells us to do is the exact opposite of what we want to do, or think we should do. In fact, it can seem the worst thing for us to do. BUT, test it out. Do it anyway, and you will find out that God is right.
Many times, our friends have good intentions but are giving us the completely WRONG ADVICE, which is based on their own life experiences, or their own biased viewpoint. If you want a completely unbiased true reading of what you should do in any given situation, then open up your Bible and begin to read it. Pray to God to lead you to the right scriptures to read and ask God to show you how to implement them. You can even test God to see if what he is saying in the Bible is true. But you have to DO IT, not just read it. Otherwise it is like you are looking into a mirror and then walking away and forgetting what you look like.